To be honest to you Nathan looking at your LFS online statistics you've done 27 races, roughly half of which you scored a podium place in, which shows me you've done maybe 15 races tops in proper populated servers (CD1/CTRA1). I've done relatively little for a long timer but I've still clocked up nearly 2000 races. Frankly you're not even at the stage of driving safely round at the back of the pack keeping out of harms way yet, having watched you you're still all over the place and barely in control of the car you seem to spend most of your time keeping the XRR on the black stuff not aware of other cars around you let alone having time to work on lines and strategy.
We've all been their and done it at some point when we began to learn to sim race and those who are luck enough will do it all over again when they learn to race for real. It won't just come overnight but in order to get better you really need to start off in a slower car that you can actually drive round a shorter track that's easier to learn. If your best time is nearly 10 seconds off pace then TBH you're just going to be a moving road block and you're not going to have fun constantly crashing a car you can't manage (yet) and getting lapped left right and centre. Maybe you've completely missed the fact that you're as bad as the people you're having problems with on the CTRA server, don't get dis hearted, don't give up you'll notice big improvements if you choose something you can manage and race and drive cleanly.