So i dont have a first gear, i put it all the way to the top left where first should be and instead it is neutral. how do i fix this? thankyou

In LFS. Put the shifter into the neutral position. Go to Options -> Controls. Click on the "Shifter" button to the right of "Axes/FF". Under the "Wheel buttons" column, click on the button to the right of "First". Now put the shifter into 1st gear. You should now be able to use 1st gear. Repeat for 2nd-6th + Reverse if necessary.

edit: Attached a screenshot showing what your options should look like.